This Is Why You Are Feeling Stuck 😘
It’s a mixed bag, but usually when someone signs up to work 1:1 they go through an emotional rollercoaster.
They start by being so jazzed that their life will completely transform AND a piece of them is terrified and wants to run for the door. Being held, witnessed and loved in a container feels amazing and it is also extremely vulnerable, you are seen and faced with a daily mirror. A mirror that is an invitation to rise and to come back to your heart time and time again. Our ego doesn’t like that shit. It’s not that our ego is necessarily evil, but that little sucker is more focused on our survival vs. us thriving. It wants to keep us alive and even though playing small feels shitty, it’s familiar, so we stay. We have a deep knowing that staying stuck and suffering is painful as hell, but we know it well and sometimes our fear of the unknown and fear of our greatness feels too much. So, we keep spiraling the same patterns over and over. We take comfort in our smallness, because we know it like the back of our hand. We shy away from thriving because it comes with too many unknowns. I know that pattern well and I too, have played that behavior over and over again like it was a new Beyonce song. I understand deeply, and that’s why I am so invested in my clients growth and holding them while they burn through old stories, beliefs and patterns that no longer serve them.
Some people will truly make every excuse in the book to dodge committing to work 1:1 with a coach, even when they are ready and they want it. There’s no shame or judgement here, it’s all good, I just see it being played out of the reg. In the past, I was also this person, that would fully RUN. Who would find genius excuses to avoid going inward. This happens because we are deeply fearful to face our shit. This work is not for the faint of heart. This is about lovingly facing yourself, your emotions and truly being alive and flowing with what is. That’s no easy task!
It is way easier to numb out; binge on the cool new netflix show, scroll through instagram for hours, drink until your blackout or eat until you are sick. I say this with all seriousness, it takes a badass to live life fully. The person who can go safely into their depths of grief, who can truly be plugged in and present for all of lives pleasures, and to have a relationship to sacred rage for lives inequalities. That takes a badass and a brave spirit to choose to live instead of numbing and turning away from their truth.
Those types of badasses are the ones that I love to serve, the ones who are scared but are committed to healing and growth. One of my favorite client transformational stories is one that me and my client love to cackle about. Prior to working together, this client did his research and read countless 5 star reviews that was claiming “this work will change your life” He eventually decided to hire me but before we began working together he said “Listen, I am not doubting your talents, I am sure you’re really good, But, life changing? transformational? Not to be rude but it seems like some bold claims.” I heard him, I too would be a little hesitant with such reviews. Four months in while working together he interrupts the session and goes “AHH! They were right. Those damn reviews were real!” Six months into working together any time he would have an aha moment he would say “Oh shit, I gotta add this to my testimonial. It’s gonna blow all the rest outta the water.” A little fun fact, that client decided to extend working together past our original plan because he got so much out of it.